None the less, we worked on some plans. I am going to have a "TERRIFIC" weekend. Do you want to hear about it? Well, Saturday, she is going to come over to assess what she needs and we will spend hours playing "what can I have?" Then she is going to pack it for the move. So, my entire day will be with my W watching her pick over our stuff like a vulture on a dead deer by the roadside. Yippee!! Then, on Sunday, my FIL and two of her friends (her two friends who I just love by the way b/c I am quite certain they are not in my corner, so to speak) are going to show up Sunday morning with a truck to take the stuff away. Wow, I can't wait. I have a better idea, why don't I just slam my head in a freaking car door until I go unconscious and I can then spend the entire weekend in a coma. That sounds like a more fun considering I can finally get some rest. And here is the best part, I will get to get up Monday morning to another long week at work and a 1/2 empty house. Would someone please just shoot me in the head now! Son of a ...!!!!
Hmmm... I don't know if I would do it this way FOBD. I'd suggest making a list of the things that she can have and get the h*ll out of the house while all of this is happening. It is going to be hard man. When my W was doing this (also with 2 friends who are definitely not in my corner by the way), I was 2 hours away staying the weekend at my sister's place. I don't see any benefit to you being there.
Originally Posted By: FellOnBlackDays
I do have one question for the group. I was planning to do the following. After everything is in the truck and she is walking out of the house on Sunday, with a smile on my face and love in my eyes, I was going to say to her, "Well, take a good look around because this is the last time you will step foot in this house." I want her to spend that drive in the moving van to her new place with something nice and heavy on her mind. I don't think there is anything wrong with kindly reminding her that she is walking out on our M as long as I do it in a polite manner. Good move or bad move? I will let you guys decide what I do.
If you decide to be there, don't say this to her. IMO it is pressuring and pursuing. Also, it serves no purpose that I can see. The thoughts that you are trying to get her to think are already there. No doubt about it.
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