I failled horribly...

[FellOnBlackDays]

LIS,
No, I have not made plans for what I am going to do on Sunday, but I am glad that you and Denver brought it up. I have a 7 month old niece that I have fallen head over heels for. She is so cute and so much fun to be with. I think I will ask my sister to be available to meet with me and the rest of my family for the evening and dinner on Sunday after the moving is finished. I may even sleep somewhere else on Sunday night... Thanks for the thoughts.

UPDATE (1/19/11 - 10:39pm): Wife called again this evening. I ignored her. I didn't feel like dealing with that tonight. But, after a couple of hours curiosity got the best of me and I called her back. I told her I must have been in the shower when she called.

None the less, she immediately turned the conversation to the logistics for this weekend. I still have not given her a definitive answer on what she can have. She started pressing me for a decision. I told her as politely as possible that I didn't have a decision at this moment. I thanked her for her patience. She acknowledged my apology and told me she was sorry to press, but needed to have everything settled by this weekend. All of a sudden, she is really starting to take my feelings into account. For months, she acted like she could have hit me with a truck and not cared in the least. Still confused by this.

None the less, we worked on some plans. I am going to have a "TERRIFIC" weekend. Do you want to hear about it? Well, Saturday, she is going to come over to assess what she needs and we will spend hours playing "what can I have?" Then she is going to pack it for the move. So, my entire day will be with my W watching her pick over our stuff like a vulture on a dead deer by the roadside. Yippee!! Then, on Sunday, my FIL and two of her friends (her two friends who I just love by the way b/c I am quite certain they are not in my corner, so to speak) are going to show up Sunday morning with a truck to take the stuff away. Wow, I can't wait. I have a better idea, why don't I just slam my head in a freaking car door until I go unconscious and I can then spend the entire weekend in a coma. That sounds like a more fun considering I can finally get some rest. And here is the best part, I will get to get up Monday morning to another long week at work and a 1/2 empty house. Would someone please just shoot me in the head now! Son of a ...!!!!

There is some good news. After we worked out the logistics, I got bold for a minute. I simply asked, "So, what is going on with you?" She stayed on the phone for 35 minutes telling me about her work, issues with co-workers and some problems she has been having with her mother. It was light, friendly and we laughed a couple of times. Then, she turned around and asked me the same thing. So, I politely told her some things going on in my life. Again, we laughed and made small talk. She didn't seem to be in any real rush to get off the phone. We talked just like we are still married. The conversation was just like the ones we would have a night when I was on the road for business. At one point, she told me that she now hates the place that she is living in and can't wait to move to her new place. Funny, when she moved to the place she is in now, she "loved" it. Hmm, more cross-messaging. Then, she started going on and on about how excited she is about her new place because she will be able to "make it hers." Doesn't sound like someone who has had any thoughts lately of coming home. Four months, one week and counting.

The real test will begin on Monday. By Monday night, she will have everything she wants from the house and a check to cover some of the value of what I keep. All that will be left at that point is filing the D. So, I guess Tuesday is when things will become interesting. If communication continues, good for all. I will know that we have moved to the "friends" zone, which is not all bad news according to my DB training. But, if she suddenly goes dark again, I will know I have been had and all this communication was truly about physical possessions. That will be bad and I am quite certain I will be missing so more days at work. Breakfast in bed, anyone? Does anyone have a pill I can take where I will go to bed tonight and wake up about 10 days from now??? If you do, I will give you three times what you paid for it in cash right now.

I do have one question for the group. I was planning to do the following. After everything is in the truck and she is walking out of the house on Sunday, with a smile on my face and love in my eyes, I was going to say to her, "Well, take a good look around because this is the last time you will step foot in this house." I want her to spend that drive in the moving van to her new place with something nice and heavy on her mind. I don't think there is anything wrong with kindly reminding her that she is walking out on our M as long as I do it in a polite manner. Good move or bad move? I will let you guys decide what I do.

Folks, I am probably going to be posting my behind off this weekend. If you are out there, please don't be shy.

B.I.T.S.

FOBD