Slight update. I'm still relatively new to this DBing so I'm just unsure what to think.

W is heading to OH to visit some HS friends. She missed the 20 year this past summer and regretted it. There are guys but I'm comfortable with the situation and we've even been very playful when discussing it. I completely trust her now - something that about a month ago I wasn't so into. I thought for sure there was OM.

Today D8 was sick so W had to stay home from work. I'm trying to do my own thing but every time I go into the room it seems that W is purposefully trying to reengage me in conversations. I keep trying to leave but she keeps asking questions or making chit chat. I have to admit that I do love it.

I've been going out of my way a bit to be thoughtful. Not necessarily pursuing(I'm sure others would disagree) but just trying to be the man that I want to become - understanding, thoughtful, selfless. Today, I ran to grab somethings for her for the trip tomorrow.

I couldn't find the objects at Target so I had to run around to get them. Honestly, I did them because I wanted to be thoughtful. She was very grateful. Borderline touched because of how out the way (and out my norm) I was. She kissed me - without me asking.

Just another goal achieved. I'm not making anything of it but she still seems to want to have me around when she's packing and getting things ready. It feels good.

Earlier today we even chatted about things. I asked how she was feeling and she was very forthcoming. She said how she was still insecure about a lot of things - didn't mention the R at all. I did ask about it (don't throw things at me:)) and she just said she didn't know.

It's all cool with me but it is weird. We're getting along really well and really communicating a lot. She's even doing things for me like she did in the past and like I said, seems that she wants/likes to be around me.

I'm definitely not reading into things but just want to figure out what to do next. I feel that she is slowly inching back to me and I don't want to push her back any further.

any suggestions?


m 40
w 38
married 15
together 18
d11, d8
bomb 12/19/10
2nd bomb 3/30/11
COMPLETELY DONE