Spellfire, Yep, I ordered a copy of Hold on to Your N.U.T.s off of Amazon two nights ago and can't wait for it to arrive. I could not find it locally. None the less, I am looking forward to reading it.
As for your thoughts on her confusion, you are correct. I have had numerous folks, both professional and amateur, tell me that if she is showing signs of confusion, I should be happy. That means that she doesn't really know what she wants including whether or not we are really finished. I gave my MC some exact quotes from her. He smiled. He stated, "C, your wife is not trying to convince you that these statements are true. She is actually trying to convince herself..." He is very good.
One good sign I did get last week was her confession that her mother is out of line and upsetting her. I suspected for a long time that my MIL was putting gas on the fire, but I had no proof. Well, now I do and it was straight from the horse's mouth. I was very happy to see my W confide in me again. That is an act of someone who still trusts and loves me. If she was finished, she was never confide in me as I would be the enemy. Frankly, right now, I don't think she knows who to turn to. So, I will remain right here for when she needs a "friend."
Take care, buddy!
B.I.T.S.
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
