Thanks everyone. Divorce Remedy is on the way. Should I hide the fact I am reading it from her? Its gunna be a while before she can afford to find a new place, so we are in the house with the kids, sleeping seperately.(i figure it will take a month or more). She was bouncing around between sisters houses but it was killing the kids on sleep. She agreed to come home for the kids' sake. Can I use this time to my advantage? During our marriage wife felt she didn't get the feeling that I loved her, respected her, needed her. Never told her she was did a great job, that kind of thing. I was inconsiderate. She also has said we married for the wrong reasons. (We were pregnant before we were married.) I would tell her none of these things were true, but that was no where near enuf. She felt alone for a long time. I did not do a good job at affirming my love and commitment. She said she is not willing to work on the marriage now due to the fact she worked at it alone for a long time. She has always been a social butterfly, and when things got bad in our marriage, she turned away from me and to facebook and any social event she could to get away. she was either texting or on facebook all the time. She put it in front of working on our problems talking to me ect. So here we are in the same house after she announed the separation, which she feels will lead to certain divorce. Its awful hard to watch her act very normal and almost carefree. I fear this is not a good sign. She has her network of friends scoping for places to rent. Do I hide DB from her? Do I tell her what I am going to work on? I have been treating her more like a friend since she agreed to stay here. Trying to stay calm and collected. I don't want to dig my hole any deeper. We act like nothing is wrong in front of the children. She knows how I feel, that I love her and will do anything to reconsile. We talked finances last nite, how we can make living apart work on our income. Our lives are both going to be reduced to pennies to live on. She agreed to help me keep the house I built before we were together. Again, can I use the time we have in the same house to my advantage?
