Can't seem to tell what stage or what i'm doing

[Grocerykartman]

Well, for the time being, and as dbmod advised, there is nothing wrong with doing what you're doing. Your situation may be different than many, so if you truly feel that GAL will hurt more than help, then you should trust your instincts. BUT, a few posts ago, you seemed very down and out, and had plenty of questions.

What I have really meant to convey with the last couple of posts is, you still need to think about yourself, or put another way, not forget about yourself. If the situation gets to be too much for you, you need to find ways to keep you happy and energetic and productive. I sensed with those recent posts that just about every thought you had had to do with her and how she was thinking and responding and behaving. I didn't want to see you go down her road 24 hours a day seven days a week...you've got a place in your life too.

Absolutely, don't do anything you are not comfortable doing. But just know that you may need an escape from the stress here and there, so I wanted to get you thinking about responsible, sound ways you could do so.

Hope things stay the course of improving for you! Your post is encouraging.