I failled horribly...

[FellOnBlackDays]

Dixiegal,
Welcome! Yes, I think it would be really helpful for me and my buds to have a female perspective. We have loved having Lost in our group, so another female can't hurt.

From your message, I see you read about my sitch. Kind of crappy, huh? If my W only knew how much I loved her and how much I would change if she would come home, we wouldn't be here.

When she first declared she was leaving, I did it all. Flowers, cards, emails, old wedding photos, everything. The only thing that worked worked were the flowers. About 10 days after she left, I sent her a bouquet with 10 flowers in it. On the card, I wrote, "There is one flower here for every day I have had to live without you." She called me crying when they were delivered. We talked positively about our future and I really thought I was going to turn this thing around. Four weeks later, she told me to go to hell.

So, as I am sure you have read, I have finally gotten an open line of communication to her. So, now what? What would you like to hear from the man you left?

I have been DB'ing my butt off and I was beginning to think it was working. But, today, I got a huge dose of reality slapped right in my face. Out of the blue, she called. When I saw her on the caller ID, I was thrilled. I paused, composed myself and answered. She made two minutes of small talk and immediately turned to asking questions about the logistics of getting her moved this weekend. I think I am being set up. I thought her sudden interest in me was because of the time apart and my GALing and 180. I think I am starting to figure out why she is really calling. She wants her furniture and her remaining stuff. This is the part where I am supposed to say something cool or funny, but I am back in the toilet again. Now I know why she suddenly took an interest in calling me over the past two weeks. She needs access to the house.

I guess I will continue to DB. This is the only choice I have. It is either DB or die in a pool of sadness and pity. Tonight, just for the fun of it, I read some of the success stories in that section of the forum. The first one I read was about a couple reuniting after four months of separation. It was four months last week that she moved out. I guess I won't be so lucky...

Send me your perspective and I will see what I can muster of from a man's perspective for you. This will be fun.