Mr. Bond is exactly right here, I just want to re-iterate what he is saying.....
I like how you handled it, that was great!!!
Cooler heads always prevail!
Definitely tell her that you will not be moving out.....I would just end it there, don't even offer any suggestions or alternatives, I would not suggest her moving out or anything...just a simple "I am not moving out".
Then buckle up.....the SHE-DEVIL herself will appear.....
Do not engage, just say "I can't communicate with you when you are like this and leave the room.
Originally Posted By: Mountain Lion
She was very nice about it, even told me she loved me for the first time in months. Assured me that the problem was her and that she was getting help, and is very open to reconciliation.
You know this is a complete and utter lie.....She is going to say anything to you to get you out....after your out she can go back on any of these other things.
To respond to the ILY statement you could say "I am glad to hear you say that" and then say nothing else.
If she is open to reconciling then she would not be asking you to move out. Do not argue nor discuss this with her, you could again say "I am glad to hear you say that" short and sweet.
Let her spin, turn away and do not look. I would treat her as medusa.....really....try not to be in her presense at all.....the more you look at her literally and figuratively the more you will get stuck, as if you turned to stone......get it???
This will be the hardest thing you have ever done....EVER.
But
You can do it....
It just takes TIME.
Waaaaayyyyyy more TIME than you think.
Hang in there......it gets better....I promise.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
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