Oh boy, what do I do?

[Queen_of_Swords]

I want to save my marriage. I can't toss 26 years and everything we built/created together away.

He dropped the bomb last week, told me he: decided some time ago he wants a divorce. He is moving on with his life, and wants me to do the same. He has made up his mind, our marriage is over. Hopes one day we can find freindship, and thinks I will find a man that loves me the way I deserve. He wishes me well, and then discusses his parenting of our kids as their father.

I think the courteous detached thing is to ask what he wants to do. I've made so many assumptions in the past, perhaps it's best to ask.

I just don't know anymore. How many times can your heart be ripped from your body?