I am going to tell you what Michelle does in her book. It's not over until YOU want it to be over. In the meantime perhaps an insight I had today would help you.
It came home to me, that I'm allowing my H's actions and words affect how I feel day to day. That's an awful lot of power I'm handing to him, and a lot of opportunity he has to hurt me if I allow him to.
95% of any person's behaviour that hurts me is UNINTENTIONAL.
That's a lot I can choose take offence at! My H and yours really are not considering how their behaviour is affecting us, they are REACTING, not really thinking or choosing consciously.
I really need to focus on MY behaviour, MY words and MY thoughts. I choose how I act, speak, think. Feelings change from minute to minute feel them but they will pass. What matters is my goal. What matters are the choices I make.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
