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[MrBond]

I recommended Retrovaille only because it sounded like the two of you are concentrating just on each other and the sitch which could be very tiresome. It's a change of environment and also shows your W that she isn't alone in how she feels. It could validate her feelings and show her other options on how to cope.

Maybe you need something to inject some humor into the sitch. There's a woman named Bowman (you can google the name with marriage) who has a blog about marriage which is funny.

Point is you just need something to serve as a catalyst to make the R more fun and not just centering on needs.