just some thoughts from B

[Augtan]

Brooklyn,

That was awesome! Very well thoughtout and said! I agree with it all, I wish my XH could read that to understand that people can get past their anger, learn and grow from it and move forward.

One of the biggest hang-ups with my XH toward me is that he thinks I have too much anger and at times I did and I didn't handle it like you said you handled yours. I was nasty and awful, the anger I had before the A was anger from childhood issues and such, the anger after discovery of the A was way different and although justified, handled poorly by me, it was anger when in termendous pain and I couldn't and didn't know how to control it at all.

I was beyond a mess, so he decided that with my anger before the A and the new anger from the A, I was never going to not be angry and therefore he was never going to have peace..peace was being found very easily in the arms of OW, so he left me.

That is just the anger part of my story, there is much more, but I know to this day, regardless of all the changes I have made and how different I deal with the anger I have, he is still in MLC and refuses to acknowledge that I have released my anger and did it for me. I really don't care that he can't see it, because just like you said, it has changed me and letting it go had freed me to love him and have compassion for him and the old me could never, ever treat him like I do if I hadn't released the anger, so I know the progress I have made and I am feel renewed and free!! I still get angry over things, but how I handle it and set it free is soooo different and so refreshing and healthy. I hate all that H did to me and our kids, but holding on to it all is not making my or my kids future better. I can and I will continue to deal with my anger in a much more positive and correct way.

Thanks so much for posting that!

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