To everyone who has given a response to my post - Thank you very much. It was hard to take, honestly. You feel a little beat up when everyone is telling you that your H is a jacka*@ and you are doing nothing but enabling him to do what he is doing.

I cried, because you are all right.

I cried, because it's not fair that H does this to me.

I cried, because my H is a really good man and I know he loves me and loves his girls. he is just in a really miserable cross road in his life. and to KNOW this man and see him go through this crisis is heartbreaking.

I cried, because I can't fix him.

I cried, because I really might not be here when he gets through this crisis. I just don't know.

Then I stopped crying and felt better. I can still detach without being angry. I can still detach and let him find his own relationship with his girls. I am strong enough to move past this. I am strong enough to take all of the 2x4s and learn from each of you. Because not one of you is telling me to do something that you have not already done and gone through yourself.

Thank you all again for your heartfelt words of wisdom. I am listening.


TAMF
m:41
xh:41
T: 20
M: 15
D: 16
D: 14
Bomb dropped: 7/3/10
separated: 7/15/10
H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11
divorced: 8/26/12