Met with my IC today. Gave me some good advice about addressing issues with my wife. He said I can say things to my wife, but she needs some assurances when I do that. Basically take ownership of the issue and say "It's really my problem that I have to work though and that's why I'm upset. " I'm not saying your feelings are wrong and I respect them. He wanted to be able to bring up issues without provoking her. Which makes sense.
Funny I got a weird vibe from my W the other night during our fight/talk. I got the feeling that she is way more optimistic about us than I am. I mean I want to get to a great marriage and she seems to think it's just a matter of working through things (time and effort) for me I'm not as sure. I wonder if it's because I don't feel the traditional love from her or it's because she dropped the bomb on me.
right now I'm a tad sick an W Texted me to ask how I was feeling and she was trying to get me to go home early. I used to think this was some grand sign. Now I realize she's not a robot and you can have compassion for someone you don't necessarily love romantically.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
