DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[Bolt]

Just about to head out to the gym, but wanted to say Thanks Habit.

I just don't get it, how they can be sooooooo negative...

SIC - me neither BUT you may have to realize that she's been feeling like this for a very long time and she's tired. I know my W is like that. I feel that no matter what I do, she's waiting for me to screw up.

BUT I have to say, I totally understand.

Try to look at things from her perspective is all I can say. If she's felt like this for so long, why would she think suddenly things will change forever. She doesn't believe it. She needs to see the changes over time.

The good news is she hasn't left yet. I would say that's a huge positive. KEEP staying the changed man without wondering why she is so negative. Realize she is going to be that way, possibly for a long time. It's attrition, my friend, if the relationship is worth it.