I appreciate all the feedback here. Some of my 180's included having my mom move out which kind of shocked her a little bit. She said it wouldn't last because I would become too uncomfortable. Another thing that really bothers her is the debt she is in, partly because of me, and I was thinking of sending money every month to help pay for it regardless of what she does but then I think "man what a sucker I am she left you and now you're going to pay her bills?" but that is the pride that I had once. . Something else I need to do is stop talking R when I speak to her but now that she has gone dark I wonder if I should initiate contact. A while back she sent me a YouTube video of a song that she say's gave her strength. The song is Lover Lover by Jerrod Neimann. If you hear it that is how she felt. Being her cheerleader is something else I need to do and stop the criticizing (I’ve actually done really well with that). What I am wondering should I initiate contact. I signed the papers today and sent them. That was hard!!!
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