Can't seem to tell what stage or what i'm doing

[Metal]

I realize that "going out" may make me seem more attractive, and that I need to get away from this stress.

But one of the big things is that she feel like she has carried all the weight of the home, decisions and such, and I just kind of rode along. Now for the past 6 weeks, she has been absent (mentally) and I'm basically a single-father (except for when we hang out - daily - crazy). So, I'm wondering how this helps my case if I start going out, instead of being mr-responsible at home. I read recently that Sandi said if you do what she wanted now, it would be a turn-off.. but she is LIKING what I'm doing diff in the home, and seeing me be responsible.. and she has said so, several times. I think maybe my case is diff b/c of the mental/breakdown/illness. I dunno. Detachment has been very helpful. I'm letting her go, and when I do, she is almost immediately coming back (at least in the moment).. so that is working.

But what about GAL? Really seems like it will hurt more than help? I'm not trying to argue, I really just need help, and If this is the right thing to do, then I want to buy into it.