W Left almost 3 months ago

[hope2011]

"Believe nothing you hear and only half of what you see" is true here.

2 weeks ago my H said it was over, he saw no future with me at all, was active on a dating site. He was looking at apartments, telling me that I needed to figure out insurance, etc. He told me over and over there was no hope, he was done, wanted out, etc.

I have been DB'ing (not all that well, I've been a wreck often), did a bunch of 180's, put my ego aside and started some much needed changing.

Last week he e-mailed me "Thank you. I don't want a divorce. I love you and only you".

Today... we're a mess, I don't know what's going to happen, where we are headed but if I had thrown my hands up 2 weeks ago, look at what I would've missed. I'm no success story by a long shot but I have hope and that's something he refused to give me 2 wks ago.

WAS don't know what they want. They say they do, they may seem like they do but at any given moment the tide can turn in any direction.

You have to decide what YOU want, what you're willing to do and how far you're willing to go and you have to be 100% committed to that no matter what she does, says, files, etc. You can't control anything she does.

Post here, vent here. Come up with a plan. What are your 180's?