BeTheMan, your story is interesting and inspirational! I think you are right and it is time to go dark and move on.
I would make a comment, or relate some conclusion i have reached myself, is that even if we db, GAL, detach....al that good db stuff, and become the happy confident people we want to be...it does not mean the outcome will be reconcilation with the spouse. It doesn't work that way. Really i see DB'ing as saving ourselves despite the outcome, and thats pretty darn okay.
