This is the part of your sitch I have always been confused about.
You were seeking help, How was that WAW? I am not trying to sound like a jerk or anything, it is just that I am confused by this.
I can understand why it would be confusing. It is unusual for a WAW who is having an EA to seek out help for the M. But, I certainly was that WAW. Being a WAW is what's in the heart of the woman. She doesn't have to actually leave the house, but in her heart...she has forsook her H. That was the place I was in at that time.
I have to give my spiritual raising credit for being whatever (I think, God) was behind me that night I found my way to the DB Board. I had not given up the EA, but was actually trying to decide if I should pursue leaving my M or if there was any hope for things getting better. I was in bad shape and was desperate for help.
So, a WAS can come here trying to get help.....but it's not as common as LBS's.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
