18 Years of Marriage - Leaving in June

[sandi2]

That's great! That is what I'm talking about. And, as the days come, you will think of things to add to those daily goals. If you look at it as a "challenge" then it helps to have a positive attitude about the whole thing.

Let me remind you that there aren't many days that go by that one doesn't have an opportunity to show a bad mood or say a cross word. As we work to mold ourselves into a better person....we still have those times that sneak through. So, be prepared. Have a back-up plan. In other words, be thinking right now what you can say or do when that day comes that you might respond with a sharp reply to something your W says. Some men find it very difficult to apologize for small things like that, but just saying, "I'm sorry, I did not mean to snap at you", could prevent things getting into a fight.

Be thinking, now, a back-up plan to have when you go home and your W is having PMS big time. If you know, now, what you can do to make that easier for the entire family (take the kids and get out of the house, go get take-out, whatever), then you will feel in control when it hits.

I think you need to have that feeling of being in control of things in your life....especially right now. Preparing ahead with those back-up plans will give you that sense of control and calmness. You can't control her, but you can help the environment and control things around you to a great extent.

I have learned with myself, that I can control myself with not-so-nice people at work and in social settings.....but it's when I'm around my family that I tend to be off guard with my emotions and and allow the bad side to come out. I believe that true for most folks, don't you? It should be the other way around b/c our family is our most valuable treasure.

I will be anxious to hear from you and see how your day goes with family. I can sense a positive energy from you and that's important to have as you progress.