together 18 years married 13 years this month 4 children (2 born before 2003, two birn since then)
H had an A in 2003. We were separated for 10 months, then reconciled. Initially thought this was an isolated incident, but have since found at least 4 other incidents of infidelity (suggestive emails), and have discovered one current relationship - phone calls are all I can confirm, but suspect they have visited each other), which has been going on for 4 months now. H unaware that I know about his current extramarital relationship.
H told me in October he was considering divorce. Going to Retrovaille next weekend.
What I thought was an isolated incident now seems like a chronic choice he is making.
Don't want divorce but this isn't a marriage. Anyone have experience with chronic infidelity?
