What next???

[sarahani]

Thank you everyone, I AM making the changes for myself as I realize that I'm not the only one worth saving in this it's my kids too. They deserve a loving parent who is going to be there for them and give them the best I can.

Today was especially a rough day for me…he’s moving on Friday to be closer to OW, Valentines Day is coming up and so is my anniversary. I use to love the holidays because everything was so close together but I’m seeing the negative side of it all now. It hurts so much that the last few months he has before going away for at least 2-3 years he is not spending with us. I missed him so much and I have so many things on my mind that I need to get done because of his absense. There are some positives happening for me though, I started working on my college degree again whereas I probably would have never done if all this didn't happen. I need to get a job now too, haven't worked in 10+ years.

I’ve been reading the links you gave me Cadet thank you, really! I have another question that has been brewing in the back of my mind as I mentioned he is going to be going away for a few years and he will be away from OW other than a few phone calls and letters there is no way they can have any physical contact will their relationship die out and will this time to think things have any positive impact on our R? He is facing some jail time for something he didn’t do which I think has something to do with his depression and I don’t know what I should do at this point? Should I just use the time we have together and make the most out of it before he goes away? I know no one has the answers to my questions just asking for any opinions on what everyone might think.

Thanks