i am choosing lives for my children.

i will not permit them to be exposed to father that is connected to a gang, that models behavior that celebrates illegal activity, alcoholism, that views children as a trinket to be wheeled out for show.

when you have been in a R with another person for years, you know where their skeletons are hidden. and for the past 16 months gathering intel, proof and documentation for what is best for children the time has come to use all of this in a court of law.

in the long run are my children going to be better off, oh YES. i have done everything possible since november 2009 to present a better option for my h, to demonstrate a better life by going straight, to be legal and above board, able to have no fear of what is going to catch up with his lifestyle choices. i am sorry that i will not permit my children or myself to be part of his poor choices.

i feel sorry for this boy he is no man.
i have dealt with so much in death, being on my own with my children and fight to keep them alive in their births all while my h choice not to participate with us.

i was able to go to h's "work" sit down with my children, order food, conversate with all the people around us, laugh, have fun all while my h got to feel uncomfortable. you see, i have to deal with that each and everyday. h is at my work, enters my classroom, chit chats with my coworkers all while i am uncomfortable. if it is vengeful it does not bother me, if that makes me a horrible person then i am. if he has nothing other then excuses of why he forgot ran out of time got distracted to not go to the bank deposit money for his children, it is about time i give him back what he has given me. those are natural consequences for him.

every time he does nto pay ontime until the court order goes through, i will go to his work eat hang out so he can experience what he does to me everyday. no there is no court order that will keep h away from my work, it is either have my d taken out of school, where i am a teacher at or allow him on campus to pick u drop off my d, i chose my daughter not my comfort.


Me 40 H 30
D19 previous marriage, d3 and s10months
H walked out nov 1, 2009
Seperated ever since
filed for d nov 2010, served h 12-22-10