One thing that I have not mentioned and I should of mentioned is the fact that when I was in OK after the bar my W and I were heading to the gas station to get a soda, the phone rang and she did not answer. Immediately my antenna went up, it was 12:30AM. I ignored it went inside to get the drink but then walked back to the door to see if she wanted anything else just to see if my suspicions were correct. She was on the phone. I said “your sister is up late?” She said it wasn’t my sister it was so and so OM. My face must of spoken volumes because she said “now you’re upset?” I responded by saying “well I am a little concern that some random guy is calling my W at 12:30Am” Her response “it’s not some random guy it’s &^% and we have been friends since we were kids. He just got out of a 3 yr relationship and I am going through this. We talk on occasion he lives an hour away and is bi-polar. We are just friends but if you think something is going on you can take me back to my car and I’ll go home” Up until this point I had been really good with the validating of the feelings and the whole giving her time and space. When I really started to stumble was after this incident. Two days later while still there we were hanging out at her apartments just talking and he called again around the same time this time she did not answer. I didn’t ask but she offered the information freely. On my last day there we had a nice heart to heart and I told her “I know men and I know what this guy is trying to do, and right now you are the perfect candidate for this, sad, lonely, going through a separation and he is there. I am assuming he calls you a lot?” She said “yes he does but there is absolutely nothing going on there he tells me about his day I tell him about mine. That’s it. There is nothing happening and there won’t be” I told her we started out as friends also and to please at least be honest with me if something is happening. She swore she would but also swore nothing was happening. This was really when my desperation reached a peak because I felt like now the plot thickened. I was ok with the separation and giving her all the time she needed but this changed everything. I have chosen to believe she has not done anything at this point because I just know her, a close friend of mine also agrees that she is not the type to do it, but maybe I am being naďve. This I believe would be the deal killer for me.
