Lost,
Do me a favor? Please take some time this week to create your first DB goal. It can be anything. Mine was that I was going to find a way to create an open line of communication with my W after she went dark. Now, you have been keeping up with my sitch, so you know how things are going for me. So, please do the same. Set a goal for yourself and then spend a little time figuring out how you are going to attain it. Then, if you feel open to it, share your goal with us and let us help you get there.

Now that I have achieved my first goal, I feel much better. I am in the process now of setting my next goal. I don't know yet what it is, but I am working on it. If you would like, once I know what it is I will share it with you.

Please don't under-estimate the power of this action. It gives you something to focus on other than your grief. Plus, when you hit it, it is wonderful and very motivating. Just like when you are in the gym and hit a new high. You can't wait until your next workout.

Hang in there, girl. As the founding member, I am now officially declaring you a member of B.I.T.S. You won't get your official membership card for a couple of weeks. HA! Just some light humor to make you laugh. Denver, MJ144, Bolt, and some others are in this little group. Please stay with us.

Sometimes at night, visiting this site is my only way of coping with the loneliness. Take care!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...