First off, welcome to the place that nobody wants to be!
Newcomers list of things to do and not due.....
Do not reason, plead, beg, follow her around trying to do everything right.... (this is un-natractive and will never work to get her back)
What attracts a woman?.... A strong, confident, calm, decisive man that is in control of his life.... So how do you get to this man when the life you know is falling apart..... It takes time...
Here are some terms you need to understand as part of a way to save YOURSELF....
GAL = get a life.... start a new hobby, start talking to old friends that you have lost touch with, exercise....this is a big one... It helps relieve stress, makes you feel better about yourself and helps take your mind off your sitch (situation).
180 - do the opposite of what you would normally do.... Figure out what your unproductive behaviors were and change them... If you change the way you act, the way people respond will change as well... Have you ever tried a verbal argument with someone that is calm and in complete control of themself? They are aware and don't fall for traps.
Detach - google Livestrong detachment and read this every day. It helps you come to terms with what you can control... It is you... trying to change the way someone else feels is unhealthy and leads to a very sick emotional state. This time is for you, bro... Don't think of this as the end of the world... this is an opportunity to become the man that you want to be (it's not for her though...its for you and your kids)
"Told me I should move on" "long term separation" These are phrases used by someone involved in an affair. Is their any co-workers or old flames that she could have become involved with..... Has she told you I love you, but I'm not in love with you? Don't think for a second that her morals are too high or she isn't the cheating type.... When people's needs aren't being met affairs CAN and WILL happen.
"What do I do? Do I help her find a place?" You don't shield a walk away from their behavior... They want to move, she can find a place and have her friends move her. She want's a divorce then she can do all the leg work... your too busy working on yourself
Be a great dad, find your happiness.. be upbeat and positive in her presence.... Do NOT ever act on emotions... If you want to call her and tell her how much you miss her come here. If she tries to drag you in a fight, tell her calmly that you can talk about it when it can be done in a respectful manner. Don't say I love you anymore, she doesn't feel that way right now.
She doesn't respect you as a man right now.... that is what got you here.
Start reading... Divorce remedy, his needs her needs,
