wife planning long term separation

[FellOnBlackDays]

Shaves,
Welcome to the club. Let me first start by saying my W said all the same things and did the same things. But don't lose hope. Everything she is saying is a defense mechanism. She is scared and thinks it will be easier to dump you if she hurts you. Don't take the bait. On Oct. 27th, my W said all the same things and then put it all in an email two days later. Now, she is starting to apologize for saying that stuff. No, we are not safe yet. Actually, she is sending movers for her stuff on Monday. But, I am in a much better place with her right now than where I was three months ago. You must buy, read and practice what you will find in The Divorce Remedy. It works. Read my sitch.

It is really, really scary how many folks I have found on this site that have identical situations. I did the same thing. I loved my W with all my heart, but I had really bad ways of showing it. I joined the Navy at 17 and grew up in that environment. An environment where emotion was considered weakness. While in the service, I had a string of very, very bad relationships. I got out, went to college and met my W. Unfortunately, for years, she carried the relationship because I was unable to be as emotional as she would have liked. She walked out on me last September. She now has an apartment and I am doing everything I can to save this thing. Please catch up on my sitch entitled "I failed miserably." You will see just how close our sitchs are. You will also get some insight on some of the things I have done over the past few months. I can't stress enough that following the DR and DB to the letter will help. In four months by following the DR, I have been able to at least get my W to admit that the S is tough on her and I have seen some doubt in her eyes during our last couple of meetings.

Catch up on my sitch and get back with me. We have a small group of folks on here that stay in touch with each other. We are all in just about the same sitch. You are more than welcome to join in. Not to mention, I have really wonderful insurance through my job. It pays for me to see a MC weekly, so I take advantage of that. I do my best to post my MC's advice on here from time to time so that I all can benefit. The best things in life are free!!

Good luck. Remember, you are not alone. We are here for you man. This site is a life saver when you are in your house alone at night and just need a friend.

Take care!

Fellonblackdays (FOBD)