15 min later he calls...and get this...he forgot what he came for in the garage....left without it...where is his brain????..
Your H is really cognitively impaired. Unbelievable.
I wanted to tell you about a recent convo with my X-SIL (XH's sister) because there may be parallels with your situation. X-MIL is back in the hospital (she was in the hospital for 5 days last week). I've visited X-MIL 3 days in a row now. Yesterday XH seemed to appreciate my involvement and concern. Today I think he is in shock because her doctor told him today that she most likely has less than 6 months to live. Her kidneys are starting to fail.
Here's the interesting part. I spoke with X-SIL by phone for 30 minutes last night after I visited her mother in the hospital. We normally e-mail but I have to say that I got a lot more information from her by speaking on the phone. You may find this when H's family comes to town. My X-SIL said that my XH didn't tell her everything that was going on with their mother. She sounded a bit frustrated........so XH is not only secretive with me. He is secretive with his sister too. I also asked X-SIL if XH's new persona was his normal persona and said "I've been wondering if the Mr. GAG that I knew as an aberration and that his current persona is the way he has always been". She said "No! Mr. GAG has been acting very strangely for the past 2 years"..........so it was very validating to hear her real perspective. She said things to me in real time that she wouldn't put into writing (e-mail). You may find the same thing with H's family.
I'm also curious about how your FIL's impending death may be affecting your H. I kind of expect my XH to get a lot worse with his mother's health destabilizing. I'll be there to support her, but I'm not sure what my attitude will be toward XH.
