If your W believes that your M is 'loveless', start showing her unconditional love right now! I don't mean that you should do things that are 'pursuing' her or trying to change her mind. Quite the contrary. Do this by listening to her and validating her feelings. I suggest that you make it very clear to her, ONE TIME, that you love her with all of your heart and that you want to work on M. Then you shut up about it.
Personally, and this is JMO, if she is dead set on moving out, helping her find a place might be good in your sitch. Others may disagree. I say this, bc it will show her that you really do understand her feelings and where she is emotionally. It may also help you avoid what I went through for the first few weeks after my W physically moved out of home which was anger and silence (darkness). If you can be her friend right now, this may help you tremendously in the months ahead. Again, this is JMO and I have a feeling that others may disagree.
Other advice:
1) begin to detach from W emotions and choices 2) start 180s whatever those may be for you 3) GAL - start doing things that make YOU happy
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
