It's not necessarily less attention, maybe just how you show him attention. You don't have to wait on him hand and foot or jump when he tells you to. Start off by doing little things here and there and don't expect something back.
"I think I am not at a point of piecing anything yet. He's wanting to leave and I am trying to stop him to leave. I think me paying more attention to him now will only backfire.
right now, with me in the house, he can't wait to get the hell out. I have already tried to be as nice and warm and happy as possible. I want to cool things off first."
You are definitely not at piecing. First thing you need to understand is that all WAS's feel the way your H does. They feel the burning need to leave right away. It's just how they are.
Stay nice warm and happy. Continue to look good and smell good. Just don't do it for him. Do it for you because it makes you feel good.See if that attracts him. Don't push any talks or try to trick him into staying. TAke the focus off of him and onto your son.
"bond building need to come later?"
Yes this is important. You can't force a father to bond with his child. Have you tried to do activities together as a family? Or maybe you can say that you signed your child up for something and needed your H to take him because you were busy. Maybe sign up with other families that do group activities.
He needs something to engage with the child. Just leaving the two of them together while you take off isn't going to work. Instead it'll make him more irritable. Men don't automatically know what to do with kids so that's the worse thing you could do.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
