Wow ALB, I know you meant that for TAMF, but I needed to hear it just as much!! Thanks! Perfect and so true.
You need to let him come to you regarding seeing the girls. I sent my XH an email telling him I was not going to facilitate a relationship between him and the kids, that it was totally up to him if he wants to be in their life or not. If he wants to come see them, he can and I will support that, but it is on him and he needs to make all the arrangements and such. I am done filling him in unless he asks, no pictures, videos, updates, etc.
If your H wanted to see the kids he would, he is too busy with the OW to care! I know that is harsh, but true, of course he loves you, but you have made it very clear that he can't have both and he is stringing you along so that he can. I did the same thing when I was where you are and mine picked the OW, I even moved our kids away and he cared less, was too wrapped up in OW to care.
He is now paying the consequences and is sorry, but it was his choice! And isn't sorry enough to come home and make it work. Don't let him split his life so easily, he can see the girls on your terms, when it works for you and them, and he can pick them up and take them somewhere neutral, not his apartment, not your house, not with OW, somewhere fun for them. You are in control, period, make him well aware of that, don't back down, you are strong!! Make it about you and the girls and not at all about him!!
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
