What were your wife's complaints? What is the difference in you from the time you both fell in love and now that she wants the divorce?
I don't think what you need to focus on is the logistics of the divorce, but you need to seriously address the issues that caused the divorce. One thing that concerns me is if you were leaving her lonely before, being too laissez-faire (sp) may be just more of the same? Is that what was going on?
You will most likely have to test the waters from time to time by contacting her.
Even though there are a lot of posts here, I think we need more information about the interactions in your relationship to really try to help.
