Well LIS, it has been extremely busy with the kids and skating, school and just juggling all of their activities. Throw in that i now have them all the time as my w just doesnt show up for her visits. I made arrangements for this past weekends visit to be at my parents for her. It is close to her place so she could bus there. She did plan on spending saturday night with them but didnt. She spent 8hrs with them on saturday and 6 hours with them on Sunday, but really she watched tv and they watched movies and played games with Mema and Papa. blows my mind, I guess OM really has laid down the law about her staying at other peoples homes.
I have been firm with her on the OM and his drug habits. I will not discuss it further, she either proves he isnt using or he doesnt see the kids. I refuse to fight with her, and to be honest she isnt liking it. She has tried numerous times over the last few days to get me to fight, and i just refuse to. I am as polite as can be. Dont know how i am doing it, but it feels good. My children are happy with me about this as their mom tells them if she comes home, mommy and daddy will always fight. So i am showing them that i am a bigger person and not fighting. I feel great. Since making this decisin i am happier, i amd not stressed out as much and to be honest, i love to see her squirm when she doesnt get the reactin she is looking for.
I will keep it up, and see how long it takes for her to soften on her end. I have told the kids that i am enjoying all the time i have with them, and we make the most of it. Alot of crafts and models! lol. I also told them that it looks like mommy isnt coming home anytime soon, and we need to live our new life and have fun with it. If and when mommy leaves OM and wants to be a family again we will discuss it then.
until then, we are a new family and we are doingf okay.
