Slowly building again.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

For me,

I could see all the good things we had going or were doing, but (hah) one bad thing would totally upset or destory all the good.

I had to learn to back away from my initial reaction to the bad, figure out if I was over-reacting, if it really was that bad?

Communication was also a major hurdle for us, sometimes what she said, or what I said was not heard the way it was intended.

Unfortuneately, alot of this burden is your, simply because your the one posting here. I'd be saying the same thing to your wife, if she had been the one to come here.

Your marathon analogy, perfect. Time and effort...and later being proud of what you have accomplished.