What will work is you trying to become the best that YOU can be.
Cadet is so right. No one can tell you what the future holds for you and your M. When I first came on these boards I thought that anything less than fixing the marriage was a failure. What I've learned is that "fixing the marriage" is not possible. We can only fix ourselves. And when we improve ourselves, we come out winners regardless of the status of our marriage.
Look within. Figure out what areas you can improve. Many of these are probably complaints you've heard from H in the past. Some are probably valid if you're truly honest with yourself. Figure out what your issues are and work on them. Your H is on a journey he needs to take alone. Nothing you can do or say will affect it. But by changing yourself (FOR YOURSELF), you end up changing the situation. In the end, you may R. Or you may not. But you will be ready to stand on your own two feet either way. And that is what OUR focus is on these boards. You cannot manipulate your H or make him "wake up". So concentrate on you. Doing the readings that Cadet has recommended is a good starting point.
Sorry you're here but it's the best place to be given your sitch....
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
