I told my H that my anger has subsided and he needs to come back to the house on a regular basis to see the girls.
is very very very bad IMHO. Look at the verbage that you used. You TOLD him. He NEEDS to. You cannot live his life for him. You cannot salvage his R with his D's. Yes, it stinks for the girls. I get that. But if he's too much of a pansy ass to get off his keister and figure out a way to spend time with the girls, then it's clearly not a priority for him. That is not your fault. Do you want a man that's not willing to fight for his family? Why are you the one that's going to have to bend over backwards
Originally Posted By: TAMF
If I get uncomfortable, I will leave or go to my room.
in order to make this happen? Hell to the no! All this did was get you sucked back into his drama where he's telling you that for right now, he wants to continue f'ing his OW but wants you to NOT even go out on dates. He wants you to wait for a man who continues to spew out lies. He wants to proclaim love for you while abandoning his family. And you damn well better be understanding about it because he needs YOUR strength.
Sorry to be ranting here but you are letting yourself slide back TAMF and that is NO good. Don't use your D's as an excuse to get sucked back in. The biggest priority in your D's life is to have a mother who is well grounded and mentally healthy. You've already seen that can't happen with the way your H is right now. You CONTINUE to get into R talks when you KNOW you shouldn't. It never ends well. He tells you the same old crap. You tell him the same stuff he's heard a million times. And you end up feeling chitty (got this word from Eric). STOP STOP STOP. He's heard what you have to say. Stop saying it. He's not DOING this to you. You continue to ALLOW it to happen. Change the situation. Change your actions. Then it will stop. He does not deserve to know what is going on in your life. He chose to leave. STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP.
I'm trying to be subtle here but hopefully my point is coming across
Love ya girlfriend...
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
