Oh TAMF, I have tears in my eyes reading this!! I know exactly how you feel!!! It is beyond painful to know they are right there...right at your fingertip..the old H... but not really!! I don't know how else to explain it. I won't hijack your thread and tell you all my XH has done in regards to things like this, but when you said you started crying and almost threw the phone...I know that pain well.

Hang in there, remain strong, I screwed it up when my XH started texting me stuff like that and we have backslided so much, but are making progress again. Let him come to you. Don't get in the way or stop his relationship with his D's but he can pick them up and take them somewhere else, just not around OW!! I would be very clear on that one too. It is too much for them and not fair to bring these awful woman around the kids!! Hang in there, I am praying for you!

A

Me-40
XH-44
T-21
M-18
Div-19 mo.
D-18,S-15,D-11
Bomb-7/07 EA,PA
Mvd out-9/07-to give me space
mvd back-12/07
mvd out-7/08
back with OW since 2/08
OW broke it off-1/10
in and out of tunnel and our life since!!