I keep thinking about the quote on the bottom of your posts. I mean I know what I need to do and for the most part it's not that hard. I honestly believe that she will come around a lot quicker than she thinks. I think the 5-8 year stuff is all of the stuff she's trying to deal with including family issues Yet (no but) I just have a hug problem doing it. The other side to that is that I am able to get past those moments and move on. When she catches me in a moment it's trouble
She went out of her way this morning to profusely apologize for getting mad this morning.
The issue I struggle with is that I cannot have expectations. However, she gets to have them all the time - about me and the things I'm doing.
I see why some people just give up on the marriage though, because it can seem like you are at the bottom of a mountain, then when you climb a little you slip back.
I am also greatly concerned about the long-term effects of what's going on in our marriage. Not to be glib, but I wonder if the people who have gone through it can shed some light.
I mean this is a person who loved me more than anything in the world and now they are just trying to get to a point where the like me. I know my W is in that mode too -she can't understand how me, a person who loved her more than anyone else, could change like I did.
I know what happened with my W when that love was questioned. It lead her to the point she's at. I don't want to reverse roles over the next few years.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
