DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[Bolt]

habit, you are dead on!
Sometimes it feels that we just need to keep the status quo until they turn around. SIC, keep doing what you are doing. I KNOW it's so hard to not take it hard but stay strong!

I go through HOURS when I feel great. The W will give me a touch or a kiss before she leaves for work. But then do something that makes me feel like it's over. The MIND! is a terrible thing...

Here's a little thing that happened to me today and an example of how what I've done simply to make my life better. I go from San Diego to LA quite a bit. We have a prius - good mileage but also for the carpool lane. W knew I was going up there today but took the Prius to work. She's had a few really rough days at work so I KNOW it wasn't on purpose. She was just not thinking.

Instead of doing the normal thing - calling her and either joking about taking the wrong car, or trying to exchange it - I just let it go. She's in a rough spot because work is kicking her butt. I don't want to add to it. I can suck it up and do the drive - it's no big deal. Doesn't do me any good to make her day go less.

That to me is thoughtfulness. Something that she hasn't felt in a long time.

I'm not sure if that example is helpful but maybe it shows way in which we can SHOW we are changing instead of saying we are.