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[JR09]

Well, I had my first weekend with the boys. Had a great time. Went to a hockey game, swam at the local YMCA, ate out, took the boys to their baskel games, went to church, and just enjoyed being with the boys and their silly jokes. Every other weekend is definitely better than every month or 3 months...

The link-ups with W were civil for the most part. W didn't say anything at all or attempt to make conversation. Just dropped off the boys and drove off. But before the link-ups, W and I had a phone discussion about her vehicle and how unsafe it was with many mechanical issues. She wanted me to pay it off so she could get a new used one, smaller and more gas efficient. I told her I couldn't do it financially.

So I offered to swap vehicles so she could have a more reliable one while I figure out what's wrong with hers. And that's what we did after she agreed to do so...after much resistance and convincing over the phone. My vehicle is very reliable. I maintained it well in the the past 2.5 years, drove it up and down CO, UT, and ID to see the boys without any issues. Now I have to fix the other vehicle...

This weekend though,after swapping the boys to take them with me and talking with W on the phone about the vehicle swap and finances, I was so frustrated that I sent W an email which basically says " W, you really have changed. You've become mean, vindictive, bitter, and angry thru the past 2.5 years. You hold grudges forever. I still love you, but you probably don't care about that either. The truth will set you free, just like it set me free so I knew what to do to heal myself...""

That email probably wasn't an effective DB technique...I regretted sending it later. When we swapped the boys again for them to go back with W, W didn't say a word to me (obviously). But she was not mad looking or rude. I definitely expected the reaction after what I emailed her...

Anyway, first weekend with the boys over. My S13 emailed me his basketball games schedule starting this week. I plan to attend them, but I fear W's opposition if she sees me there. She always talks about her "safe zone". I missed all kinds of games in 2.5 years since my W left me. I really want to watch my son play. What do you guys recommend?

Thanks for the input.

Joel