Thanks all, I am in a very similar situation to ScaredinCanada and have my own thread. ScaredinCanada brought me here and I have read everyone's thoughts....

I thank you all for being here for us. I am still trying hard and have only been implementing these changs since the beginning of the year, 3 January is when I make my choice to do this.

It is ridiculously hard but it is best. I am seeing that my evenings are better for both of us in the house and we actually laugh some and stuff so I am trying not to hold on to the possibility it can work. But it is re assuring to see results and know that it is because I am trying to move on.


Me - 39 yrs old
Wife - 39 yrs old
Married - 18 years
Together - almost 21 year
Kids - son age 13/ daughter age 10
Bomb Dropped in May 2010
Seperating - June 2011, after school lets out