Having a really hard time...

[MrBond]

The point is to bust your D. If you try something and it doesn't get a favorable response you try something different.

But in your case, you've accepted everything she has done without much resistance and with a defeatist attitude. You moved out in the hopes that she wouldn't file. She did anyway. She hired a L and you have questions of what you can or can't do, yet you don't want to hire a L yourself.

So right now you're stuck. Kicked out of a home which you say that in a legal agreement you aren't allowed to go back to (and I'm surprised that this doesn't bother you at all). No wife and no plan.

There are times that you have to stand up for what you want. However it doesn't sound like you want anything. You can't attract back a W who literally had her way with you.

You don't even keep in regular contact with her for her to get her to miss you. So in the end you are still stuck with nothing. And honestly, if you don't even know what she's asked in the D, why would you not want to know your rights at least.

So does not being at home bother you at all? If you plan to not do anything, then you should just file and move on. You aren't going to get her to miss you. Also, you aren't even home so how do you know she doesn't have an OM. Would it change things if she did?