I failled horribly...

[Denver_2010]

Hey FOBD! Meant to congratulate you on your successful meeting with W the other night but ended up not having time last night. Sounds like you did a fantastic job of DBing. I hope that I get to the same point that you are bc I think that I am a bit behind.

To answer your question about your 'environmental shift' theory... yes, it helps me as well when I get down about my sitch. Unfortunately there are times when I am unable to do it bc of circumstances. I have a 45 minute to/from my office and that is when I almost always seem to struggle bc there is nothing to shift to other than the driving. I listen to sports radio, but there is only so much you can listen to about the Broncos these days without letting our mind drift

Good advice to eat too. I find myself in a bad way when I don't eat bc of lack of appetite or whatever.

The three reasons that you list as possible explanations for your W's actions today are the same ones that I list for why my W has softened up over the past several weeks, but still seems to have this invisible hand pushing me away. Unfortunately, we have no way of knowing... unless you are a mind reader. All you can do is stay the course man. Keep doing what you have been bc it seems to be working. Remember that!

I also don't think that there is any question that our W's are confused right now. I don't care what anyone says, you don't cut off your feelings for someone who you have loved and dreamed of a future with for years in a few months without there being doubt that you are making the right choices. They have doubt in their minds whether they want to admit it or not. The problem is, at least with my W, is that I think that she is so damn stubborn, that she will do her best to keep that doubt as suppressed as possible. That's why we have to continue to poke little holes in their wall over time until we get that doubt to become a flood. You are doing a great job of doing that.

BITS!
Denver