On Figurative Ledge - Talk Me Down?

[FellOnBlackDays]

Simpleton,
I would say in the beginning see what works best. Early on in my mess, I was being as vague as possible because that is what she was doing to me. I wanted her to wonder what was going on. But as we have now begun to tear down the wall between us, I let her set the pace. If she calls me up and gets inquisitive, I respond. I give her the information she wants. But in return, I politely as possible ask for answers to my questions in return. I find lately that the more open I am with her, the more open she becomes. This has been a huge accomplishment for me because in the beginning she told me on numerous occasions that I was "no longer privy to information about her actions." Now, she actually at times will give me details. So, out of kindness, I make sure to reciprocate. I am changing a behavior in my spouse that I didn't like by changing my behavior toward her. Not my idea, I stole it from DR. Give it a try and let us know how it works.

DBmod,
Thanks for the explanation. I now better understand the difference between the two. Stupidly, I do believe I thought I had to use them hand-in-hand. But they can be two different entities. Please keep us straight. Thanks again!

Denver, where are you buddy? How are things?

FOBD