Am I piecing ? Just can't tell 3...

[Denver_2010]

Sad - I am not nearly to the piecing stage of this process... I hope to be someday. Point is, I can't really answer your question on that issue.

But I have been reading your thread for a while, and it just seems that you and W are trying SO HARD to do this that it almost seems unnatural. How did you make her fall in love with you when you first met? My guess is that you didn't sit in bed reading self help books to each other. It seems to me that you two are almost over thinking it. Kind of like a ball player who is over thinking his swing and then goes into a 2 for 50 slump.

Start going out and doing the stuff that you did when you were dating. In fact, if it were me in your shoes, I would seriously consider asking her to go to some nice all inclusive beach resort in Mexico for 7-10 days with no kids, no work, no other stresses. Relax with your W a little, lay out in the sun, do some fun activities, have a few drinks and see where it takes you. Let her feel how much fun the two of you can have together without all of life's stresses interrupting the flow. Take a second honeymoon!

I'm not sure if that is realistic for you, or if W would go for it, but it just seems that you need to do something that lets nature take its course. And nature led her to falling in love with you once before.

JMHO,
Denver