Everyone does it differently, but you can't piece AND detach. They are two different things. When you're in piecing, both of you make a conscience decision to work things out. It's proactive on both parts.
What has your W done independently to help to heal your M and make it stronger and better? That's why I wasn't sure if you reading to her was proactive enough.
If she really does discuss the chapters, then what does she say about the His Needs part? She has to understand that if she wants to heal things with you. If she's still thinking about her own needs, then she's not ready for full piecing yet.
Don't detach now if you feel she's drawing closer to you. Just be aware that couples who do end up reconciling go through a series of false reconciliations. But if both of you stick with your efforts, you can come out the other side stronger than ever.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
