If you can't give her what she wants, especially now, you will lose her. What you're doing isn't working. Why do you think validating is so important? You're not agreeing that D is best. What you are doing is agreeing that she has a right to feel the way she does.
And anyway you're thinking too literal. Of course that's what she wants right now or else you wouldn't be here. But alot of it is mindreading and things said out of frustration/anger/etc.
"for me to take the fall for our marriage not working out, or at least half of the blame."
All WAS say that.
If you really want your M to have a chance, you've got to stop focusing on her and take care of yourself. Right now your fear is making you very clingy.
Another wise Coach on here told me once that the first thing you need to do is face the brutal reality of your sitch...that you might get D. Once you face that fear and can conquer it, you then go about seeing what you can to save your M. Don't let the fear control you.
Another thing you have to understand is that you need to respect her wants. You may not agree with them, but it's what she wants for now. Those wants can always change.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
