Grocerykartman- I know about her partying through her mother and brother. Her brother stayed with me over the holidays and so my mother in law was always over here too. Plus she has things stored in my basement.
I had a coach (not DB) that told me that I should have maintained some contact with her from the beginning. She seemed ambivilant and now she seems resolved to divorce me. For example, the day after she left she initiated a nice text. It read happy Veterans Day (I was in USN). Three days later when she moved her things out she text me something nice aswell. Since then nothing unless it's about business. I initiate all contact. Her friend and the people she is surrounding herself with are having a huge influence on her. The EA may just be a friend, IDK. When she left the first time she did the same thing, met a guy through her friend and the texting and calls were numerous. When she came back I found out it was not as bad as it looked. This time though, idk.
As far as the filing, let's just say I know and I'd like to leave it at that. I have really curtailed my spying and am now resolved to stop it all together. The emails were on the advice of my coach and didn't get too personal just friendly. I won't email her at this point.
I am doing things for myself but I am still somewhat paralyzed by this. I mean things seemed so good right up to the point where she left or at least much better than they had been. She even told me through tears when she left that things only seemed better on the surface.
MrBond- Yes. I have read DR several times. I am thinking of getting DB.
UPDATE-- My W text me this morning and she said she got my message and wants to talk. This isn't because I called though. She had already requested a talk before I left on business two weeks ago. She agreed to come by the house after she gets out of work on Weds which I was happy about. I'm sure she will drop the "D" on me. My coach with DB (I dropped the other) told me to ask for nothing and just listen. Of course my urge is to plead or argue for the marriage.
I realized I forgot the personal info. just as I hit submit. I'm putting it below. Thanks for the replies. I really appreciate them.
