Can I save this? previously under WAW and Newcomer

[MrBond]

"I told her I wanted her to talk to me and share her hurts.

And that was when she told me she didn't want me .."

Here you weren't seeing to HER wants. Just yours. You said YOU want her to talk to you. You can't force her to do anything. You could have said that you were there for her and supported her. Big difference.

"I guess my fear is that if I totally withdraw... she really won't miss me."

Well you're there now, does she miss you? If not, then you need to back off. You don't have to go totally dark, maybe dim. But right now you need to eliminate the fear. Once you get rid of your fear, you won't be second guessing yourself.

You can't tell her to not hang out with her friends, its just more control on your part.